Today we focus on ensuring our children have a healthy and positive mindset.
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Teaching Children to be Kind to Themselves
As parents, we want our children to grow into strong and confident individuals who face challenges with a motivated and resilient approach. But do they have the tools to control their emotions and actions? Children need to be taught healthy strategies that they can use to manage their emotions and believe in themselves.
1. Positive mantras
Positive self-talk is when we talk to ourselves in a loving, kind and reassuring way. It can have a huge impact on the way we think and feel. Our inner voice can be both positive and negative, therefore the brain should be trained to think more positively. We can teach children to use positive statements or affirmations about themselves to change negative self-talk. These are short, positive “I am” statements, such as: “I am strong”, ” I am an amazing person”, “I am proud of myself”. Practising this daily encourages a child to set out to do their best and feel good about themselves. Positive thinking for children is a tool that they can use to develop self-worth and a positive mental, social and emotional well-being.
2. Gratitude and appreciation
Teaching children to be thankful is important but by learning gratitude children can develop empathy and become sensitive to the feelings of others. Good manners and gratitude do overlap and teaching children to reflect on what they are thankful for will develop skills of gratitude overtime. Undertaking chores around the house will help children understand that parents do things for them. Encouraging children to actively support someone in need or less fortunate will encourage kindness and help them understand the value of helping others. Teaching children to stop, reflect and recognise when they are thankful develops skills of gratitude and stronger emotional skills.
3. A growth mindset
Growth mindset is a positive way of thinking that develops resilience and is a tool children can use to manage emotions. Encouraging children to adopt a growth mindset teaches them that skills can be developed through effort, persistence, trying different strategies and learning from mistakes. When encountering a challenge or making a mistake, it is important to see this positively and to help children learn that mistakes teach us valuable lessons. Children will become determined, they will want to persevere and succeed. This will help them to use failures as a motivational tool and have a sense of achievement when they succeed. All children should realise that they can do anything they want if they put their mind to it.
4. Being kind
Children model their parents in every way and learn from what they see around them. Teaching children to be kind to others makes them feel good about themselves and creates a positive learning environment all around. Children should be taught about the feelings of others and strategies they can use to practice kindness. Giving compliments, using manners, speaking politely and showing respect to others are all important habits for a child to learn. Encouraging kindness, in both your child’s actions and your own, will lift your child up and will help them grow to be a happy and loving person.
These are all healthy strategies that can lead to some great conversations with children about their feelings, thoughts and about themselves.
Try asking your child to draw a self portrait and then write 5 positive goals or 5 affirmations around the picture.
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